There is nothing that says you need to share your life goals, your dreams and your future with anyone who has nothing to do with where you are going in your life. Your life is your private business and others external of you have no effect on where you go or don’t go in your life. You are the Master Designer and Master Programmer of your life and you do not owe anyone an explanation of your life nor do you need anyone’s approval of what you are doing with your life. People will try to insinuate themselves into your life on the pretense of being for you, when what they are really doing is trying to get information regarding your private life. While you can be extremely trusting, you do not need to trust everyone with your life, your goals and your dreams.
While there is nothing wrong with bouncing ideas off others, the final decision of your life lies with you. You can listen to others, but make sure you are also listening to and trusting yourself. No one outside of you knows you much better than how you know yourself. You have it in you to make the best decisions for your life. The decisions you make do not need any final approval from anyone outside of you. When you make a decision for your life, it is final and the only person who can negate those decisions should be you. If those decisions do not work for you, you can go back to square one and revise those decisions until it feels right to you.
Learn to believe in yourself, believe in your own mind, believe in, trust your heart, and listen to the inner messages of your soul. If we put our lives in the hands of others, we will end up where they are going and that may not be where you ultimately want to end up. There is a saying that goes, “When climbing the ladder of success, make sure it is not leaning against someone else’s wall.” ~Author Unknown. Your higher self, your spiritual self, guides your life so that means, someone outside of you cannot dictate nor determine where you and your life are going. You are guided by something deeper inside of you. Therefore, it is important to release the need to listen to what other people think is best for your personal life.
There comes a time when we need to step back from everyone in the external world and refocus on ourselves and where we are going. That is not something we can do if we have every and everyone in our life saying every and everything that will only serve to create chaos and confusion in our lives. In order to move our lives forward instead of backward, it is important that we extricate our thoughts from the thoughts of others. We need to clear our mind, heart and soul so that we are not blocked by anything in our external world.
When we have spent years building up our lives, weeding out the things that do not equal healthy living, then others do not have a say in our life. Because when individuals do not understand what is going on in your life, they will try to overpower your life, demand that you follow what they say and demand that they know what is best for you. As a result, before you know it, everything that you have built up is now in tatters. You are no longer a child. You can determine what is best for you. Focus on your thoughts for your life and do not allow any external thoughts to derail your life. That is why you do not need to explain your life to anyone and you do not need to allow the world into your life.
We cannot be weak-minded when it comes to living our life on our terms. That means we cannot take a passive stance when it comes to leading our lives. If other people’s thoughts are not on our wavelength, we will only be inviting trouble, chaos and confusion into our lives. Because eventually those thoughts will creep into your mind and cloud your judgment. Before you know it, your life mind, your life is crashing. It is important to respect your own life and your thoughts for your life. Do not allow anything to cloud your mind, which will prevent you from effectively and powerfully leading your life. It is impossible to lead your mind in chaos and confusion. So because you are the gate-keeper of your life, so therefore you do not need to explain your life to anyone, you also have the right to move your life forward away from anything that will only serve to keep on breaking down your life.
When we can own our life and realize that we know what is best for ourselves, we will no longer have the need to explain your life to anyone. We are no longer children that need to explain our actions to our Caretakers. You have everything in you that can tell you if you are going in the right direction or not. What is the right direction for you will not be the direction for others. That is why we cannot be clones. We need to own our individual life. Unfortunately, if we are constantly bombarded by outside noise, we will never be able to lead our lives powerfully and effectively. That will lead to you crashing your life because you are constantly concerned with how others think of you, how others see you and what others believe of you.
What others think of your decisions concerning your life whether positive or negative, is none of your business. They do not guide your life. What matters is how you see yourself, what you think of yourself and what you believe about yourself. If others do not like how you are living your life on your terms, then they are absolutely free to take their acquaintance elsewhere. Do not budge on your life values and principles.
When you are truly living on your life values and principles you will seek to operate in the best way of yourself. Of course, if you are involved in an intimate relationship you cannot just be for yourself. However, when you can own your own life, you will be able to co-exist in an intimate relationship more powerfully and you will not allow yourself to be treated like a doormat. We need to stand fully in ourselves leading our lives in whatever direction that our higher spiritual self guides us.
About the Author:
Trudy-Ann Ewan is a Keynote Speaker, Author and Spiritual Wholistic Life Guide, who specializes in working with Individuals in their Journey to building a balanced, wholistic and healthy relationship with themselves in order to create and live a passionate, powerful life so they can create the life they desire. To read more from Trudy-Ann, feel free to visit her website: [http://www.themotivationallounge.com]. Feel free to contact Trudy-Ann Ewan via the website if you are interested in any of her Speaking and/or Coaching Services.