You say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I say it is a fable

That is a response to Bikram Vohra’s article, ‘who are you to tell me now not to gaze upon your splendor, Merin Joseph? Get on together with your work’ which became published on 27 May additionally on Firstpost.

Bikram Vohra’s argument that women being stated for his or her splendor as long as they are now not “being written up as a bimbo” or “ridiculed as an intercourse symbol” or “being shown disrespect,” may be taken critically handiest if we are geared up to ignore all the brave women and men who have devoted their lives in the pursuit of gender equality and willfully well known that chauvinism and misogyny are the two strong pillars of our society.


Because that is happily now not the reality we stay in or are at least striving to keep away from, Vohra’s function isn’t simply absurd, however pretty manifestly incorrect because women are not there in our bodies.

Right here’s a truth look at Adolescent ladies in India and ladies younger than 10, particularly in city regions, while shown pix of match girls have dismissed them as obese. Consistent with a survey conducted by Sushmita Mukhopadhyaya, a clinical anthropologist, a giant range of young girls have found out heightened frame focus and that their “media behavior played a big function in developing awareness about body weight.”

Researchers from the University of West Scotland observed that hiring agencies predominantly judged girl candidates based totally on their looks. At the same time, they tended to form an opinion about the male applicants based on the content material in their profiles. And this wasn’t just guys judging girls, however women judging women primarily based on appearances. The problem is that snapshots of women — ‘unique,’ ‘hot,’ ‘sexy,’ and many others are continuously informing the subconscious of these ingesting the images (ladies and men) that this indeed is appropriate. That perfect is dangerous.

Naomi Wolf, a writer of the bestseller The beauty delusion, posited that the standards of splendor have an effective impact on girls by retaining them focused on their body snapshots, providing women and men with approaches to choose and limit girls because of their bodily appearance.

Right here’s something to bite on: whilst you Google George Clooney, you find out that he is an actor and filmmaker, you also discover that he is an activist and functions in Time’s a hundred maximum influential humans. Amal Clooney, yes she freed a journalist from Azerbaijan prison, and proper underneath that news tale is how she looked stunning in a “green wrap dress”. The distinction here is that Amal didn’t grow to be a human rights lawyer to be critiqued/favored for the clothes she wears or the heels she does. The tale here isn’t that have a look at Amal, this first-rate, clever and gifted attorney, who’s doing great work, but look at Amal, this stunning woman who stored a man.

Audrey Hepburn, a mythical Hollywood actress, devoted a good deal of her lifestyle to Unicef and helping negative communities in Africa; let me ask you, did you already know this factor of her life? Right here is that beauty is that delusion that drives us all to study every different with suspicion and conceitedness; it’s far the parable that makes you cost brief components of a person extra than their work.

Merin Joseph is properly undermined by using articles that characterize her inside the list of 10 maximum beautiful IPS officers, simply as John Inverdale remarks — “by no means going to be a looker” — on Marion Bartoli angry the sporting community.

Why idoesn’t Chris Gayle think twice aboutasking a woman journalist out on a date on digicam? — “Our eyes are stunning. With a bit of luck, we can win this game, and then we can have a drink after as well. Don’t blush, baby.” And why is that Chris Gayle once more talks to any other performed journalist and tells her that he has a “very massive bat” and that she can need two palms to preserve it.

Girls within the public eye are more often scrutinized for their looks alone than guys. Splendor is the vicious circle that we ought to try to break, but the tradition of narcissism is deeply embedded in our everyday lives. Aishwarya Rai currently stated that she would possibly one day “walkout in a white shirt and types of denim on the red carpet,” however as Apoorva Sripathi points out in this earlier article on Firstpost that maximum pink carpet occasions indeed are about “black-tie” and “fashionable clothes” — in essence, a celebration of splendor that then is regurgitated, reproduced by way of your very own Myntra, Jabongs and Label lifestyles — splendor as commodity commodifying the human.

“We’ve got had lovely personalities like Maharani Gayatri Devi, Princess Niloufer of Hyderabad, Leela Naidu, Shobhaa De, they’ve all carried their obligations with grace and elan despite being stunningly true searching. Rita Faria became miss world and a physician to boot. Jackie Kennedy becomes an image of style and beauty, but she performed her professional position without trauma about how she became portrayed. Grace Kelly was the quintessential Queen like the Duchess of Kent whose contact of sophistication made Wimbledon’s prize-giving a deal with. Audrey Hepburn changed into a Dutch Resistance employee at some stage in WW II, preventing the Nazis. Mata Hari was the sector’s most well-known spy. Marie Curie received two Nobel prizes accept being labeled as a stunning woman. Cleopatra ran an empire. All of them discharged their duties. Propose Merin do the same.”

The truth that I recognize very little approximately Akbar’s handsomeness or have never come across an editorial approximately Albert Einstein’s ‘sexy’ hair ought to explain to Vohra that Merin is certainly doing her job. She simply wants human beings to talk approximately her activity, no longer her splendor. Vohra says he hadn’t heard approximately Merin till she “raised warmness and dirt” — nicely, she becomes not inside the news until it has become approximately her beauty.